Does he notice me?
“Does he hear my heart screaming his name–
sometimes it’s so loud I think the gods can hear my pain.
His voice is so mellifluous,
oh to get just one small kiss.”
-Never Been Kissed.
“I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car. I hate it when you stare. I hate your big dumb combat boots, and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick; it even makes me rhyme. I hate it, I hate the way you’re always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh, even worse when you make me cry. I hate it when you’re not around, and the fact that you didn’t call. But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you. Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.”
-10 Things I Hate About You
“I wanted it to be you. I wanted it to be you so badly.”
-You’ve Got Mail
“I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
-When Harry Met Sally
“I kneel before you not as a prince, but as a man in love… But I would feel like a king if you, Danielle De Barbarac, would be my wife.”
-Ever After
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Do you think that chick flicks give us girls unrealistic expectations of love? Or do you think we know deep down that those aren’t really true. And if we do know that they aren’t true, why do we devour them like it’s our job? Is it healthy to?
I’d love it if you could comment on this. I want to write something about this later, but for now I’d like others input. Especially if any gentleman are out there.
Thanks,
Sarah
antisocialhero said,
September 12, 2007 at 9:48 pm
Chick flicks give people (chicks, mainly) hope of the so-called perfect romance, I think. Some guys like it because they dig the idea of every great romance having a story behind it.
jennypo said,
September 14, 2007 at 3:19 am
I think girls (especially) gobble this stuff up because it’s emotional junkfood. Movies serve us up all the feel-good parts of relationships without the real hassles, the doubts, the pain. Real love is so much deeper, just like eggs are much better than Doritos – but Doritos and chick flicks FEEL so much better, and they satisfy the wanting NOW. I think a lot of this has to do with habits. When I satisfy my deep desires with spiritual and emotional junkfood, I lose my appetite for what is real and start to long for the junk itself. And this is a hard habit to break, but I think it does lead to unreal expectations – expectations that are far too low.
Emily aka EmmoGomer said,
September 18, 2007 at 5:52 am
I love, love, LOVE all those movies! In fact I own all those movies! What does that say about me? Hmmmmmmm. I do think most of these films are a load of tosh really – they do give us girlies unrealistic expectations perhaps. But surely a guy watching these movies can get some good ideas…..some pointers in the right direction! Come on guys you’ve gotta watch the odd chick flick and think *ping – light going on* ‘Ohhhhhhh, that’s what a girl would like!’
Just my two pennies worth
Traci said,
September 24, 2007 at 11:16 am
Sometimes, it can be true. My life is every bit as wonderful as those movie scenes. I know that may sound schmaltzy to some people, but you know me, Sarah. I’m one of the most realistic people you’ve ever met. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.
WHEN HARRY MET SALLY is our story.
Danny Oakes said,
September 27, 2007 at 11:53 am
I think it happens, but it also doesn’t. So is it unrealistic? Who’s life are you comparing it too? Maybe the problem is we put our lives in a box when we compare it to these scenes. Then we are unsatisfied if we are one of those who don’t have the good fortune of a ‘movie’ romance. Life is too richly complex to spend time comparing ours to others. My two cents.
talia said,
October 26, 2007 at 5:15 pm
I love chick flicks. I don’t expect my life to be perfect or even remotely near a movie, but if movies like these give me “unrealistic expectations” then unrealistic expectations are what I’m all about. I guess I should say unrealistic ideals, since I don’t expect it to happen. My “ideal guy” isn’t perfect either, but he makes up for his imperfection. I guess for me chick flicks help remind me not to lower my standards to what is “realistic.” I’d rather be alone than settle for realistic, even if that’s all that’s available to me.